Brokenness is for a season
but the lessons from it are for a lifetime.
Keep holding on.
Brokenness is for a season but the lessons from it are for a lifetime. That is a self explanatory statement. Keep holding on is the three-word phrase that sticks into the can of worms that is brokenness like a crowbar prying off the aluminum lid. Telling someone to keep holding on is acknowledging the mess and pain of their brokenness. Telling someone to keep holding on is acknowledging that what they are going through is pressuring them to give up.
Brokenness does that– pressures a person to give up. Give up on life, the situation, the people involved, a dream, any hopes– a person’s brokenness looks different in each life. To encourage and coax them to keep gripping onto hope is to bring a searing reality to the conversation surface and hoping the distant winds of change will cool the burn a little. Brokenness does that– burns and presses a person with the option of giving up.
People who don’t give up are survivors. Often the topic of brokenness entails the examination of the process of the breaking down, and the process coming with brokenness is important. Yet, understanding the pressure brokenness brings with it is as important. The feelings and emotions of each breaking are different. Except when it comes to pressure. Pressure is present at every breaking.
The pressure to give up. Pressure to fold your hand of cards beneath the season of brokenness and resign either your life or your hope or your beliefs. Pressure to snuff out the dull light that’s left in your atmosphere for total darkness. There is no process in the darkness, no acknowledgment of realities being faced, just numbing, black nothingness. This beckons us to go there and give up. To shut out the pain for the dead void of life itself. The pressure to give up. The people who say no to the pressure to give up, those are the survivors.
Often in a season of brokenness the struggle is not always in the details of why brokenness is occurring and sorting out applicable details. Often the struggle in brokenness is the struggle to hold on, to preserver. Even behind the necessary decisions we sometimes have to make as a result of brokenness there is the option of giving up. Giving up on the situation or on life will pull the plug on the whole operation so decisions don’t have to be made. Giving up on hope will pull the plug on the operation so responsibility doesn’t have to be accounted for and so mindless decisions can dictate crucial moments. The difficulty in brokenness is the constant pressure to let go of the hope you’re holding on to, even if you don’t know what that hope is.
Imagine a kettle filled with water on the stove and beginning to boil. The pressure from the boiling water bursts the kettle flab backward and out shoots a cloud of hot steam. You can see the pressure and even hear it as the kettle screams and hisses until the boiling water evaporates or someone removes it from the stove. That constant, loud, hot pressure is like the constant calling one feels to give up during a season of brokenness. All day it screams at them burning their heart. Steam rising into the mind and clouding truth and clarity and thoughts. Maneuvering throughout the day in a season of brokenness isn’t alway the greatest struggle; it’s trying to resist the urge to relieve the pressure inside by shoving the kettle off the stove. The hardest struggle is often to keep existing despite the noise and pressure to give up that stays with you all day every day throughout the season until the season of brokenness breaks.
Keep holding on. Keep holding on.
But, what if the brokenness doesn’t end? What if life at the bottom of the pit keeps going and going–and going? The brokenness has lasted this long, the pressure within to give up has lasted throughout all of life in fact– so what if the brokenness doesn’t break?
A reasonable question.
A season of brokenness carries with it another characteristic besides pressure– short sightedness. Brokenness tends to grip the lenses on your mind and direct them straight inward upon your heart that is shattered in a million pieces–and then brokenness locks the lens there. Not very nice. This is also not helpful.
Staring at the brokenness doesn’t do anything except invite negativity into the situation. The key move to make in brokenness is so accept love from someone else. The love may look like help, a hug, a rehab center, or a word of advice. The point isn’t in what type of love you receive, but in acknowledging that you need to be loved in your season of brokenness and accepting that love. Love is the only thing that will start changing your season and break the brokenness. Accept love from someone if you want the brokenness to end.
I spent the majority of my life broken. I was broken not only when I didn’t know it, but I was still broken after I acknowledged my brokenness. Acknowledging your brokenness can feel like getting punched in the gut (repeatedly). So you would think after all that pain that things would start to change. Nope. Brokenness lingers and is still there even after you’ve looked it in the face and screamed, “I know I’m broken!!!!”
The longer our brokenness lingers, the more our mind tries to learn a lesson from our brokenness, and the lessons are good, but the lessons won’t break your brokenness. The lessons just make you think progress is being made out of the weight of brokenness. But, if you’re anything like me, after so many years, it became obvious I couldn’t learn my way out of the brokenness. Rather, I must receive my way out of the brokenness. If you want to spend the majority of the rest of your life out of the brokenness, then you must do more than acknowledge the brokenness, you must receive love into the brokenness. Life lessons don’t end the season of brokenness but love does, and then you will have the life lessons to carry onward with you.
Out of the shade and into the sun, that is your destiny. When you finally make your appearance in the glorious rays of the warming sun, you won’t be haphazard looking or exposed, you will be smiling and your arms will be filled with treasures. Treasures you’ve gained in the shadows despite all odds; life lessons from love.
You may not want to acknowledge the brokenness that is a can of worm festering in your heart. You may have already acknowledged your brokenness and have gotten used to living with the worms. Either way, please allow the hope of keep holding on to pry open your heart to the light of love. Please receive love today. God is love (1 John 4:8), so make sure the love you receive is from someone who gets their love from God. That is the only love that is real and therefore safe. Start saying goodbye to the worms by accepting love.
Perhaps there is no one in your life offering love to you (don’t worry, I’ve been there too), you can go straight to the source. You can ask God to give you His love through this prayer below. I encourage you to speak it out loud and believe in your heart your words are being heard and will not return to you empty.
Dear God, I believe you showed the greatest expression of love for not only the world but also for ME when you sent your only Son Jesus to die on a cross. Today I come before you rather broken, and even though I don’t see a way out, I trust in and receive your love for me through Jesus Christ. I know you are the source of all love, and I desire to feel your love and then be love to others. My brokenness feels so big, and I don’t know if I’m in this place because I did something wrong or something wrong was done to me. But, I do know that I am not perfect and I need you to help me live my life. You can heal my brokenness with your love, and you are love, so I give you all of me, and receive all of you. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.
And I say with you brother and sister, AMEN. Let it be.
God bless you, and YOU ARE LOVED!